Love is Never Lost

love is abundant so feel free to open up that jar

I watched a tiktok video yesterday that described love as an energy that cannot be wasted; so essentially, love is never lost. This message stuck with me for a number of reasons. Primarily, it reminded me of how angry I would get at myself for failed friendships and romantic relationships. No matter how brief or long this connection lasted, I would find myself with the same frustrated thought: “well that was a waste.” I would mentally revisit all the moments where I poured love into these relationships. All the times that I would give them a positive affirmation, get them a gift or embrace them. I was genuinely upset at myself for what felt like a waste of energy. I pictured my love as this jar and however abundant it was, there was nonetheless still a lid. I believed there was a limit to the amount of love that I was able to offer others and little by little, its contents could reduce in size. With every failed friendship or relationship, there went a bit of love never to be found again. That love suddenly vanished leaving me and my jar of love emptier.

Naturally this meant that I became protective of my love. It was mine to harbor so I vowed never again to waste it on a connection that was likely to end anyways. It was to be reserved only for relationships that I could count on. This tiktok, however, reminded me that I am love. Every fiber of my being is love. The way that I move through this world, the way that I treat myself and others…it’s all love. In actuality, there was never a lid on said jar. There was never a limit to how much love that I could give just as there is no limit to how much love that I can receive.

As this tiktoker so brilliantly said, “you can give love freely.” That doesn’t mean that you should let others take advantage of your love or give it to those that don’t show you that affection and tenderness back. What it means is that genuine love is precious and abundant. We shouldn’t tighten our love jar and hold ourselves back from expressing what comes naturally to us. When you are moved to give love to others, do so. Because and not to quote Justin Timberlake but what comes around comes back around. So don't think about failed relationships as a waste of love. Instead, think about them as past opportunities to embody the most beautiful energy that both you and the world has to offer. Think of that love as not only an essential part of you but something that you are bound to get back whether that it's from yourself, others or the universe. Trust that love is never lost. It was never something that was capable of being taken away from you because YOU are love.

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